Are We There Yet?
The loss of life, devastating sickness, social distancing, and economic shock of closing businesses has been unprecedented. When you are anxious, worried, afraid or possibly even grieving the loss of a close friend or family member, and you just want this whole thing to be over, what are some ways you can get through this in a healthy way?
A Healing Formula
Professionals will tell you there is no simple or quick fix to healing from the pain of grief and loss. Someone telling you to just “get over” your grief or to “Stop feeling like that” really has no concept of the nature of grief. While I agree with the professionals that there is no simple or quick fix to healing,
Arguing - Even When You Win, You Lose
It’s in our nature to want to win. When selfishness takes over, we’ll do whatever it takes, say things just to hurt and harm, and spin or twist the truth into something unrecognizable just to come out on top. A huge percentage of relationships today...
Life: Running Toward or Running Away
Two primary motivations in life are fear and love. We make decisions and practice relationships based on running away from or running toward challenges we face. We find helpful very specific and practical ways to differentiate between reactions of fear and love, in order that we will be less fear-based and more love-based.
Resilience Against Debilitating Change
Capacity to withstand the impact of loss is influenced by losses from the past, especially those buried and left unattended or unprocessed. Unmet expectations also play a role. A person’s resilience in the face of great pain is affected primarily by...
The Frightening Landscape of Fear
It is the magnetism of love that draws us toward hope. Love is the element alongside fear that drives fear away – even the fear of the unknown. The reason is that in light of a thousand worst case possibilities that might happen, the only one that counts is what will happen.
The Blindside Wipeout of Grief
Sudden Temporary Upsurge of Grief, a term defined by grief expert Dr. Therese Rando in the early ’90s. It is an intense, unexpected wave of emotionalism that comes on occasion to someone who has experienced the loss of a loved one, sometimes long after the person’s death.
The Healing Power of Unselfish Giving
People in pain usually want to stay home, lock the door, draw the shades, climb into bed and pull the covers over their head. I suggest a way to overcome this desire to isolate is to step toward the pain by doing something that feels completely unnatural...